Here’s our latest interview with a millionaire as we seek to learn from those who have grown their wealth to high heights.
If you’d like to be considered for an interview, drop me a note and we can chat about specifics.
My questions are in bold italics and her responses follow in black.
Let’s get started…
OVERVIEW
How old are you (and spouse if applicable, plus how long you’ve been married)?
I am 57, divorced for 12 years.
Do you have kids/family (if so, how old are they)?
No kids. I take care of my 85 year old parents and a 20 year old niece.
What area of the country do you live in (and urban or rural)?
Suburban South East
What is your current net worth?
3.5M and about 0.5M in business cash assets
What are the main assets that make up your net worth (stocks, real estate, business, home, retirement accounts, etc.) and any debt that offsets part of these?
- Liquid (Bank Cash, CDs, Mutual Funds): $980K
- Investment (Index funds, robo advisor, Annuities): $800K
- Retirement (401K, SEP IRA, Roth, IRAs): $550K
- Real Estate (3 rental properties, 2 personal homes): $900K
- Family Loans (Private Mortgage): $ 270K
EARN
What is your job?
I own a business.
What is your annual income?
This fluctuates because of the business.
Last year my salary was $60K after I maxed out my 401K. The business has been down the past 3 years.
My average wage has been between $150,000 – $200,000 per year and additional business income which varies.
In several years I had over $300,000.
Tell us about your income performance over time. What was the starting salary of your first job, how did it grow from there (and what you did to make it grow), and where are you now?
I am a first-generation immigrant from a 3rd world Asian country (home).
I arrived in the US in 1989, was married to an American who I met in my home country.
My first job as a teacher earned me about $25 per month. I became a computer professional and gradually increased my earnings to middle class wages. I had about 10K USD of my own savings when I married.
My first job in the US I earned minimum wage. In about six months I was able to increase this to about $25K per year working with computers.
My last official technology-related job was 1993. I left my career and jumped into my ex-husband’s dream of owning a business because I wanted to support him.
My salary started with $300 per year and in 1999 I earned 39K. I was not an owner of the business and was treated as an employee. I say this because I was not made aware of the company finances.
In 1998 the company filed for reorganization and in order to succeed and be approved I had to be the appointed as the new owner. Therefore by 1999 I became an owner of a business that had over $600K to repay.
From 2004 onwards, I slowly started to Earn and Save.
In 2007, after 9 years of paying down company debts I was able to increase my capped salary. My income fluctuated yearly. Most of my net worth came from business earnings for the past 10-11 years.
What tips do you have for others who want to grow their career-related income?
I do not have a lot of experience in this area to share any tips. I have not worked for anybody else since 1994.
I know however that having a business is what has helped me gain the financial independence in the past 10 years.
What’s your work-life balance look like?
The business trips were good perks of being in business.
When I turned 50, I promised myself to visit new, interesting places for my every birthday and I have been doing this yearly.
This year I started going to the gym regularly primarily for health reasons.
Do you have any sources of income besides your career? If so, can you list them, give us a feel for how much you earn with each, and offer some insight into how you developed them?
Rental Properties – I have three (1BR/1BA, 2BR/2BA and 4BR/2.5BA).
I started renting only the past three years. Only one property is an investment purchase with a $40K equity. The other two were my previous houses.
Like many, I did not think I could handle the landlord headaches. Not having any mortgages and using the internet for sourcing of support and advertising has helped manage this venture.
The return is about 6-8% and generates $28K after tax income.
Interest Income — I have about $ 12K per year of interest net income after taxes from liquid assets.
Family (Private Mortgage Interest) – I carry a private mortgage for a sibling. This makes me $ 8K per year after taxes. I did not charge a hefty down payment and I am gaining 3.75% yearly.
I have a formally written and documented private mortgage. This is a win-win if you have a good relationship with your family.
Total of my side hustles: $ 48K per year after tax.
SAVE
What is your annual spending?
Currently my annual spending is $40K per year. It will be $60K (anticipating paying for benefits and insurances) per year once I retire.
What are the main categories (expenses) this spending breaks into?
Anticipated Retirement Monthly Expenses:
- Utilities and house maintenance $600
- Insurances and Taxes, Car and phone – $2400.
- Food and Entertainment – $ 800
- Education/contingencies/travel – $1200
- TOTAL: $5000
Do you have a budget? If so, how do you implement it?
Yes, I do.
I have always just put the budget on spreadsheet to make sure that I am saving. Getting close to early retirement, I want to make sure that my planned for budget is accurate.
I am amazed at how you can totally be off on some of the areas. I just recently started to electronically track each category to have a better picture of my spending.
All of my side hustles are business by itself so to be able to manage this well I use an accounting software to determine net income.
What percentage of your gross income do you save and how has that changed over time?
I cannot tell you any definite percentage since my income fluctuates yearly, I save ALL of what I do not spend.
What is your favorite thing to spend money on/your secret splurge?
I like traveling and seeing different countries and cultures this is probably my biggest splurge.
Eating out is a big expense in our household because of my aging parents.
Only three years ago did I spend for an expensive car.
INVEST
What is your investment philosophy/plan?
I am very fearful of losing money.
I have invested about 23% of my assets knowing that I can still recover from a big shake down with what is left over.
I hope I am not alone in feeling this way. For me, if I think that whatever I have now is already enough to carry me through I do not see a reason to threaten that peace of mind.
What has been your best investment?
It is undeniable that it is the business since all of what I own came from the business. However, I did not choose this investment, it basically landed in my lap.
My rental properties are probably the best that I did on my own. I bought some when the property values were lower, therefore the return on investment is higher.
MBA Degree – I pursued my dream of an American education when I became a business owner. I was the oldest in class. This gave me the confidence to feel that given my age and my foreign education background that I am as good and qualified.
What has been your worst investment?
My first taste of bad investment was buying stocks of a technology company doing an electronic planner and Contact Manager pre-internet.
I invested all my savings ($2000) to this and I lost everything.
The same thing happens when I hire Financial Planners to help me, the values will fall greatly in the year that I invested and I am not able to recover afterwards. I think this has created the fear in me that any investment can go down to zero.
I think it is too early to say that some of my investments were truly bad and I am still hopeful that they are not.
What’s been your overall return?
I think if I have to guess maybe 3-7% of what is invested.
How often do you monitor/review your portfolio?
I check my asset almost monthly. I know the stock performance daily.
NET WORTH
How did you accumulate your net worth?
I max out yearly my 401K and IRAs. I contribute to my IRAs even when I cannot take a tax deduction.
My liquid assets are growing by chasing the CDs and Savings interest rates.
In 2009 I bought annuities. Some are fixed term between 2-4%. I have a phantom 6% guarantee on one that I pay for riders. Up to now this type of investment is very confusing to me.
My current investments are with low cost index funds and robo advisors and less than $350K. My biggest aggressive exposure is with my 401K plan of about $400K.
I wish that I could tell you that I made great financial decisions early on and made good investment choices along the way. I think I may have even made mistakes that costs me opportunities lost by being ultra conservative both in business and in my personal finances.
What helped me accumulate is earning and saving really well these past 10 years.
What would you say is your greatest strength in the ESI wealth-building model (Earn, Save or Invest) and why would you say it’s tops?
Definitely E and S, since the I part I think I can do better.
Being in business is undeniably the best earning route if you can handle the stress of failing. If I had any children, I know that I will not be able to risk everything.
Being just responsible for myself, I was able to save all of what is left over after expenses and still lived very well.
What road bumps did you face along the way to becoming a millionaire and how did you handle them?
I think not knowing each year if you will have income especially when we were paying down debts were the big road bumps for me.
The way I handled this was thinking of the worst-case scenario and having a plan.
My plan is a go-for-broke plan, if I ended up with zero at 67 I will retire in my home country with my SS benefits and still be able to live well.
Even now, if all things fail for me I have a house already built for this scenario.
What are you currently doing to maintain/grow your net worth?
Right now, my plan is to not spend any of my current assets by funding my living expenses with passive income.
My growth plan is to invest whatever I am not using to generate the passive income to enable my asset to grow at least with inflation.
If the passive income is not enough to sustain me, I will need to re-visit my investments and come up with a distribution plan that I can live with stress-free.
Do you have a target net worth you are trying to attain?
If I can wait, I would like to make the minimum of Suze Orman ($5M) by the time I need to draw down on my asset. Otherwise, I think I am there.
How old were you when you made your first million and have you had any significant behavior shifts since then?
I am not sure when I hit my first million because I was just not paying attention. My guess is 50 years old.
What money mistakes have you made along the way that others can learn from?
Having a good CPA to advise you and preplan with you is one my biggest money mistakes.
Taxes is a big part of wealth building. It is very complicated that you need someone who understands this well to guide you.
Most of the ones I have found are just too busy building their own business that you are just a number to them.
I learned late in life how the accounting process works and even now, I am still in search of a CPA I can totally rely on for good and timely advice.
Marriage is full of financial decisions. I made disastrous mistakes in mine and started too late to think about my own financial independence.
I could have been more proactive, knowledgeable and ready to handle my own finances and direction.
What advice do you have for ESI Money readers on how to become wealthy?
We all have these unforeseen challenges in life that can cause emotional and financial bankruptcies, I just kept trying with my very best every day.
Slowly things got better and kept getting better and easier.
I think what happened to me, made me stronger and more determined to achieve.
I am grateful that I had the time to recover and I know in my heart, I have help from “ABOVE”.
FUTURE
What are your plans for the future regarding lifestyle?
I have already downsized my house and moved to a lower property tax area.
I need to discover the lifestyle that I want to have that will make life meaningful in retirement.
I plan to make up for all the lost years in getting to financial independence. I am reading, learning, and reaching out to people to learn from their own experiences.
What are your retirement plans?
I plan to retire next year at 58 using my passive income until I need to use my savings is my financial plan.
I know for sure that I will do my very best to be healthy (food and exercise).
I know I would like to do all the house projects that have never been done.
I would like to garden more and keep my house in great order so I can enjoy living. Not sure yet if I will live overseas.
I plan on learning while I am retired about myself to enhance my retirement living.
I also want to spend some quality time with my aging parents during my retirement.
Are there any issues in retirement that concern you? If so, how are you planning to address them?
I am concerned that my conservative plan to retire is the wrong approach. I am fearful of the unknown in retirement.
Health care insurance at 58 concerns me greatly. I now have an excellent insurance plan. One of the things I am considering is living half the year in my home country and covering all my healthcare needs while I live overseas. And keeping only major medical while here in the U.S.
I am considering the shared health insurance plan that ESI has if I stay full time in the US.
I need a plan if I end up alone in my old age with no one who can decide and look out for my well-being.
I already have a trust setup for formal written requirements.
I know no matter how nice a nursing home I may be able to afford that this is not how I want to live in my sunset years.
MISCELLANEOUS
How did you learn about finances and at what age did it ‘click’? Was it from family, books, forced to learn as wealth grew, etc.?
I was raised not having much in life, but I never felt deprived. My family and my experience growing up are my first teachers.
My first exposure to financial planning after I got divorced was watching the Suze Orman shows on TV. I learned the basics from her.
The past 10 years, I have read Financial Magazines and have a subscription.
And now reading the financial blogs.
I have also learned from some of the financial planners that I have met and consulted.
Who inspired you to excel in life? Who are your heroes?
I started early as an achiever in school, I had full scholarships from Elementary to College, and I think having achieved this in my school life made me want to excel in anything that I do.
Achieving became a way of life for me to keep getting approval from my parents and be a good role model for my siblings (I am the oldest).
If I have to say who or what, it will be the loving and supportive family I grew up in.
Do you give to charity? Why or why not? If you do, what percent of time/money do you give?
“My charity begins at home”. I have a whole village (Family) to support
I am planning on extending help to my other nephews and nieces if they want to get the education but have no means to do so.
This will be the best inheritance I can give to them.
I would want to give back in services and volunteer work once I know what motivates me.
I like the teaching part of giving back, I just do not know where or how. I think charity is most effective if you give it to “real” people.
Do you plan to leave an inheritance for your heirs (how do you plan to distribute your wealth at your death)? What are your reasons behind this plan?
I have one disabled nephew that I have in my will that I want to make sure will get help all his life if the parents are not able to do this for him.
The same is planned for my parents and siblings if they survive me, it will not be an equal distribution but whoever needs this the most will receive the help.
TOPICS THAT I WANT TO GET IDEAS:
1. I would like to know your idea on how you will design my portfolio and what will be your distribution plan if you are in my shoes?
2. Are there any ideas out there for generating passive income that I can do that will be as good if not better? I may need this sooner than later if my sibling sold her property or if I get really frustrated being a landlord. I have read dividend investing, peer lending, or running your own blog (my writing skills are bad).
3. Best health insurance plan for me.
4. Ideas on how best to prepare for quality life in retirement that is not money.
Wow, an immigrant from a 3rd world country to a multimillionaire. This is the American dream. This made my day, well done sir!
I believe this is a woman
My apologies, well done ma’am!
Yes Dave, I am a woman 🙂 I am hesitant at first to contribute since I have no revealing new ways to share, however just inspiring some of you is well worth the effort. Thanks!!
Made my day too !
Inspiring and interesting!
Thanks for sharing your story in this important interview——
Hi Razorback,
It fills my heart that I can inspire some people through this blog, thank you.
You may want to research a special needs trust (also called supplemental needs trust) for your disabled nephew. If he lives in the U.S. and receives government benefits such as SSI or Medicaid, an inheritance from your will could jeopardize those benefits. However, if the inheritance is put in a special needs trust, the funds can be used to enhance his quality of life beyond what SSI or Medicaid will fund and the benefits will not be at risk.
In my family, we call the private loans “the family bank”, and good on you for officially documenting the loan. It keeps relationships very clear.
Since you’re doing such a great job with your own finances, I’m sure you are making sure your parents’ affairs are in order, too.
Good job all around!
Hello BSue,
Thanks for the feedback and reading my story. My nephew is still in my homeland and has nothing to support him. In fact had he been raised here I think he can be fully functional.
And yes, when I did my trust, I included my parents in the process.
Well done girl! You did great coming to this position as an imigrantat at such a mature age. I would say that you should stop worrying because with your current wealth you should be able to live off the income from your investments without touching the principle. Just think if you had all your assets in CD’s how much a year you could make….surely enough to live comfortably off of the interest and not worry about losing your assets. I am sure many would not like that idea but it is SAFE. I would love to meet you in person and know more about you as a FRIEND…..I am married.
Hello Wolf, Thank you!
I know that I have opportunity lost in the market all the time, but I feel that peace of mind has value. However, there are times when I second guess myself especially having the long bull market that I can share with others and then the better part of me says, I truly should just make up for lost time and stresses of business and time to live the best years of life.
I am not sure about your location, we can email and see if this is feasible.
Hi…. I live in Oregon so would be hard to meet in person but would love to be able to do that. I am married to an Asian also. We can email for now…….. [email protected] You are incredible, keep up the good work and peace and happiness to you. Wolf.
I’m an immigrant from an Asian developing country too. Your story is truly inspiring! I love your candidness and how you want to give more to those who needs it the most.
I was hoping to inspire immigrants like you too. And I guess you truly understood what I meant by “real” people, I wish that I had a skill that can provide services that is life changing like the Medical Missions.
Good for you! Sounds like you’ve done a great job persevering and doing great now. Sounds like you certainly have a lot of things you can do in retirement for fun.
Investing more in index funds is something I’m doing- I’ve recently switched from actively managed funds. Look up the three fund portfolio- I’m leaning that way. Might be better than sticking with too much in CD or cash accounts. But hell- I’d say you are doing just fine! Best to you!
Hello 117,
I did exactly what you did, after many attempts to understand Wealth Management from banks, Rated Wealth Managers, local CPAs and experts, the 1-2% fee makes a lot of difference especially in the down market. I think I do have the three fund portfolio already in place. After comparing and testing the waters for about 3-5 years, this fund has lost the least and gained the most, what I am leaning towards putting most of the liquid asset after securing 5 years worth of expenses.
Thank you for posting.
You have done well over the years and have a fairly high net worth, everyone always wants more. You have learned from your mistakes so don’t continue to worry about the past, learn as you have. Also, I have learned as I read books, magazines, attend financial sessions, etc: be cautious on what you hear. Each person has a goal that they are accomplishing with their article/meeting and you have to modify to fit your life and your goals. Learning is powerful but you need to be careful on what you read/hear.
It is wonderful that you take care of your parents and want to help others in your family. Just be wise and make sure when they request help, they truly need help vs taking advantage of you (not your disabled nephew situation). As a single person, you have to plan your future and not give away your retirement. You are fortunate to have a backup plan to return to another country if you wish or need to.
I like to hunt for CDs and bank accounts earning higher interest rates just like you do. Having CDs that mature and replaced with higher rates is good news. Many people don’t like having too much cash due to inflation but when the market is volatile, cash is a comfort. Also, there is a good article on ESI: “If you have won the game, stop playing.” https://esimoney.com/youve-won-game-stop-playing/ . I like to read that occasionally to remind myself protect what I have vs worrying about generating more wealth.
Thank you for that great article, it is exactly how I felt. I have no desire to have so much left over on my death bed and not have at least enjoyed the true richness of life.
Please share with me shat safe investments do you keep and why they are great.
Congratulations on your success! You go, girl! Your accomplishments are amazing.
You are a true inspiration, and your plans to help your family, especially with education, will pay off for generations to come. Your family must be so proud of you!
I understand your comfort in being conservative with investments. Maybe if you calculate how much your CDs, and hopefully online high interest savings account generate, and add that to your net rents and Social Security estimate (ssa.gov can give you a retirement estimate), you will see that you can invest more in low cost index funds to help cover inflation. I think you will be surprised how little you need to keep liquid with your rents, interest, upcoming SS, etc. Do what is comfortable to you, as that has worked wonders for you so far, but keep reading blogs and try to get comfortable with a little more investments if you can. If not, I think you will still rock it!
You may benefit from a one time fee-only financial advisor to help you develop a retirement plan. Insist and ask if they are a “fiduciary”. If they say Yes, get it in writing, because that means they are supposed to put your interests first. Avoid anyone who wants to manage your money for an ongoing percentage/fee. I think you just need someone to help you develop an investment and withdrawal plan for a one-time fee. You have enough that you could get two opinions from experienced fiduciaries and compare notes.
Best wishes for your continued success! You should sit down one day, look back on your past and really appreciate everything you have accomplished. Hopefully this blog article will help you do that. I am in awe. You should be so proud of yourself.
Hi Lisa,
Thank you for all the kind words and support.
I had been testing the waters on a conservative portfolio. And I think I have a plan to increase my exposure in the market. It is just executing this and not second guess myself the first time market dips and the feeling of regret afterwards.
Regarding fee-only, I have actually consulted 2, my fear is that you pay the fee and yet your are not convinced of their plan for you that you end up not doing it anyway, is there a source that you can have at least have the quality of work background before spending the time and money to do the full plan?
My family does not know what I actually have, they know the physical assets. Where I grew up, the assistance is somehow expected. Not that I feel bad doing so, but it is the way of giving back and is part of the culture. I feel blessed that I can.
Great story and I agree that helping family is what life is about, but I don’t lend money.
I don’t know your sibling specifics but a personal loan at 3.75% is pretty scary. How likely would you foreclose? The rate likely doesn’t represent the risk involved.
I have helped my siblings buy houses but I gifted them large down payments rather than complicate our lives with loans.
I don’t loan any family money because I don’t want it to impact our relationship in any way and I know if pudh came to shove I would never try to collect.
I have had extended family and friends ask to borrow money here and there. I always say no. I have gifted for an emergency once. It’s hard because they know I do well and came from very little but I’m not a bank.
Hi gtmoney,
I truly understand what you are feeling, and I understand the feeling of I am not a bank. That is the reason why if the amount is large, I document them legally. Knowing that I may not be able to collect. But keep them responsible with their finances. The only gifting I do, is paying for education now. And emergency and life saving medical expenses for relatives in my homeland that I know can never repay.
The private mortgage if you document this well is secured with a house at least and it is better than peer lending. So far I have not had any problems with my family relationships and has worked out very well so far.
Regarding your 2nd post, I truly understand what you meant about timing the market when you have cash sitting, however, I am not quick enough nor have the guts to decide when to do it. More likely it will be the wrong move and then the lack of confidence sinks in. I have tested the market for I think 4 years now, and I think the three-fund portfolio is a good move that I may be able to live with and not time the market.
In my experience, no financial advisor had ever told me, not to invest in the market because I have enough. They always talk about opportunity lost and it has to grow with inflation. But isn’t the fee they charge the inflation rates already? So now I have to risk more and earn double the inflation to get the same rate. Some were even so bold to say that if we do not handle ALL your investments then we do not want you as a client :). This is the reason I started reading and knowing what I am getting myself into.
gtmoney, you seem to have my same attitude to investing and I am just glad that I am not alone in being ultra risk averse, there are many times I try to self analyze why I am this way.
Thank you for your sharing.
I enjoyed your story and seems we have similar views on several things. Wish you the best!
I struggle with this too. I have done very well and have the potential to earn quite a bit through work. I get very risk averse and current market heights along with volatility do nothing to make me comfortable. I would much rather miss out on 10% gains than lose 30-40%. But I also know I’m not smart enough to time the market. I have been hoarding cash and soon it’s going to be too much where I’m hurting myself by being too risk averse.
I really don’t know what to do. I have high interest CDs already. I think about paying off my mortgage which is large by national standards and is 3.5%. It’s in reality a very low LTV.
I’ve thought about paying an advisor for some advise but they will just tell me you can’t time the market and get in.
I’m currently about 50% cash and 50% diversified investment funds. But soon will take on a large cash influx which makes me feel I need to act.
I’m lucky to have stock options in my company and view those as riskier future investments. Although they may never come.
Hello – I’ve read your story and strictly speaking finances, you have done a lot better job than probably over 90% of the population in the US.
You have made financial mistakes and so have I: four bigs ones and quite a few small ones. My net worth was less than half your amount when I retired 03/01/17 at the age of 55. It has been over 700 days since I retired, and there hasn’t been a single day that I have worried about my finances being able to support my household of my wife, daughter, and parents of age 90 and 91.
I have also helped out some family members in my life, and I feel that I am fortunate enough to have had finances to help them. I was born in England, but my roots are back in India, so I truly understand some family members back in your home country not having great finances.
Some family members will appreciate a lending hand, and some won’t and that’s fine with me since it was my choice to help without any strings attached.
I’m not quite sure why you are nervous about certain things; you were smart enough to build a great net worth, despite losing money here and there; once you retire, you will still be that smart person. I pay for health Insurance for 3 of us, and it is high, but I have the money to afford it, so why stress over it?
You said that you have a budget; I’ve never had a budget, but I do track my expenses and my income. By tracking these numbers, you will eventually have a better understanding and do away with unnecessary stress.
I retired because of a steady passive income from investments from hotels. I too invested in the stock market for about 30 years, but I didn’t enjoy the fluctuations, so now I’m 100% invested in real estate and debt fund, including my wife’s IRA and mine.
If you are interested in finding more about the investments that I am currently in, you can email me at: [email protected]